It’s Not What You Want, It’s How You Want It
Two people can want the same love. One suffers, the other receives. The difference lies in the "Form of the Will."
“I want love, security, and partnership just as much as she does. Why does it flow to her and run away from me? Is my desire ‘wrong’?”
“Form of Will and Consciousness” This phrase refers to the Internal Manner in which the Will lives and operates within you. Not the Content of the Will (what you want), But the Structure that activates it.
Matter vs. Form (Chomer vs. Tzura) In Kabbalah, the Will (Ratzon) is the raw Matter of Creation itself. However, raw Matter has no value on its own. All value stems from the Form that the Will takes on. Meaning: The Intention, the Level, and the Consciousness that manage it.
A person is not measured by what arises in their heart (the desire), but by Who is holding the heart.
Does the Will rule the Person?
Or does the Person stand above the Will and direct it?
The Tale of Two Women Therefore, two women can want the exact same things: Love, Security, Partnership.
The First Woman: Her Will stems from Lack, Fear, and Grasping.
Her consciousness constricts, pressures, and demands filling.
The “Form” is distorted, so the Light cannot enter.
The Second Woman: Her Will stems from Presence, Truth, and Connection to the Root.
Her consciousness is open, quiet, and allowing.
The “Form” is corrected, so the Will becomes a Vessel.
The Mechanism of Pain When the Form is Egoistic (focusing on “Me” and “My Lack”), the Light cannot dwell, and Pain is created. When the Form is Corrected (focusing on “Readiness” and “Union”), that very same Will becomes a tool for Revelation.
The Key to Change The secret is not to cancel the Will and not to fight it. But to Elevate its Form.
To shift from a Will that screams: “I am missing this!” To a Will that says: “I am present, even without the filling.”
Then, reality changes. Not because the person pulls something by force. But because the Will is no longer broadcasting “Lack,” but rather “Readiness for Union.”
The Summary: Consciousness is the Form. Will is the Matter. When the Form is corrected, the Matter stops hurting and starts revealing Light.
Reflect:
The Diagnostic: Think of something you desperately want. Is the sensation in your body “Tight/Grasping” (Ego Form) or “Open/Waiting” (Corrected Form)?
The Shift: Don’t stop wanting it. Just stop needing it to exist. Say: “I desire this, but I am whole without it.” Watch how the energy shifts.
The Vessel: A cup full of “I Need” has no room for “Here it Is.” Empty the need to make room for the gift.