The Illusion of Being Unwanted
Why the feeling of rejection is actually a demand for self-sourcing.
“How do I relate to the feeling that I am not wanted in a relationship? What is my lesson here? Why do these feelings come up?”
The sensation of “I am not wanted” within a connection is always a deep internal lesson. It is not just a fleeting emotion or an external aspect of the relationship.
The emotions that appear in a relationship reflect the place of the Personal Correction (Tikun) of the soul. They reflect your place in the connection. They reflect the insecurity or the fear of not seeing yourself as a Light unto yourself.
This emotion rises so that you may learn to be filled by yourself, and not be dependent on external approval.
Because the True Will of the soul is to be a Source of Influence and Light from within, and not to wait for approval or love from someone else.
This is a lesson on: Internal Connection, Self-Respect, and Self-Compassion.
The more you recognize your own value within yourself, and understand that your belonging and your love do not depend on someone else, but on the measure of your Internal Filling— the more this emotion will calm down.
The emotions rise to expose the places where you are still searching Outside instead of Inside.
And in a process of: Recognition, Acceptance, and Internal Correction, those very same emotions become a Door. A door to correction. To empowerment. And to a true connection with yourself and with the Creator.
Reflect:
The Source: Are you acting like a “Solar Panel” (waiting for the sun to hit you) or a “Generator” (creating your own energy)?
The Projection: When you feel “unwanted,” is it possible that you are the one rejecting you? The partner is just the mirror.
The Shift: Try this mental switch: Instead of asking “Do they want me?”, ask “Am I occupied with my own light?”
The conversation continues in the comments. How do you self-soothe when you feel rejected?