The Trap of Appeasement (Why You Please Out of Fear)
The pattern of trying to "make nice" or reconcile isn't always noble. Often, it is an Inner Child's cry for safety. To heal, we must stop hiding our light to fit external demands.
THE ROOT OF APPEASEMENT
The pattern of reconciliation or “Pleasing” Is based on internal fear. From frustration. From humiliation. Or from the loss of acceptance.
This is a pattern that develops from past experiences. Usually from internal needs for belonging and external approval That control our consciousness.
THE INNER CHILD
Usually, this is a pattern of the Inner Child. A child who has not yet finished their emotional and mental development.
It is a pattern linked to the Exilic Element (Yesod HaGalut) of the human being. Internal Exile in various senses. Like the exile of the Psyche. Or dealing with an external reality that attacks our Internal Light.
THE TOOLS OF CONCEALMENT
The fear that accompanies such situations— Fear of others’ anger. Fear of losing love. Fear of “what will they think of me.”
These are tools of Concealment (Hester). Of trying to hide our Internal Light In order to adapt ourselves to external demands.
This is also a pattern of “Merging.” When a person tries to avoid direct confrontation with pain Or internal conflict By adapting or avoiding.
LOSING THE SOUL’S VOICE
The reason we return to such patterns Is that our Soul cannot find the way to express its Internal Truth. Instead, it gives space to fears and concealments. Leading us to be subject to external wills that hide the Soul’s true Will.
The moment we submit to our past experiences, We fall into the trap of Untrue Behaviors.
THE INTERNAL STRUGGLE
In these situations, an internal struggle is experienced: Between holding onto ourselves, Or giving space to what is demanded of us.
This is a place where there is no faith in the process of Personal Correction. Therefore, there is the pattern of “Being Okay” at the expense of yourself.
To the extent that I am not connected to my Internal Purpose, I will fall into a pattern of Fear of Who I Am. And fear of the consequences of not being what they “need” me to be.
THE LIBERATION
When we know ourselves— Not through the fears, And not through the external world, But through the Internal Knowledge of who we truly are— A liberation from the chains will occur.
The beginning of a process of Internal Expression.
THE COSMIC IMPACT
Every stage in this process is a vital stage in personal development. Understand that when you Stand Your Ground, You are not only liberating yourself. You are helping the entire Universe expand and reach higher levels.
THE NEXT STEP
The next step is to release these patterns. To deal with the fears that prevent us from standing up for ourselves. To respect our boundaries.
The Clarity that will come Will bring us to a place Where we do not feel we are “disappointing” the world. But rather, that we are bringing our Uniqueness to the world.