When Souls Speak Different Languages (Meeting Only in God)
Some souls are parallel lines. They don't meet on earth; they meet in Infinity.
“I feel we don’t manage to create meetings of the heart, even though we are both connected. Even at my birth, I couldn’t make eye contact with him. It was as if my intensified exposure couldn’t contain the fact that we don’t truly meet. My deep feeling is that our souls don’t communicate in the same language. This confuses me, because a Soul appeared through our meeting (a child). So there must be something there.”
CONNECTED BUT NOT MEETING
You touch on a place many feel but struggle to name: It is possible to be Connected without Meeting.
Connection (Chibur): Is a bond, a shared fate, a movement of lives woven together.
Meeting (Mifgash): Is something else entirely. It requires a momentary symmetry of presence, a similar emotional language, an ability to hold exposure without closing up.
Sometimes, the two do not go together.
THE MOMENT OF BIRTH
What you described at birth is a strong hint. Birth is a moment of Raw Truth. No masks. No defenses.
If eye contact is not possible at such a moment, It doesn’t mean there is no love or commitment. It means the Space between you could not bear the intensity.
Perhaps you open through Depth, Emotion, Surrender. And he opens through Control, Functioning, Holding.
Two legitimate ways. But they don’t always meet.
SOULS SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES
The fact that a child came from this union does not invalidate your feeling. Souls can meet to:
Bring life to the world.
Teach a lesson.
Enable a specific correction (Tikun).
Without being meant to be a place of rest for one another over time.
Sometimes, the very essence of the meeting is to bring life, And then discover that the relationship itself requires deep clarification.
THE PAIN OF THE DEEP PERSON
Depth is a gift. But it is also vulnerability. When one person lives in depth, and it floods or threatens the other... Distance is created not out of malice, but out of a Lack of Tools.
Then the deep person feels lonely even within a relationship. And this is a painful confusion.
MEETING ONLY IN GOD
“Two souls can meet only in God.” This is a very deep state of consciousness.
There are meetings between humans that happen through emotions, bodies, roles, or history. And there is another kind of meeting. Where two souls meet only when they give up the attempt to grasp each other. And meet in a place Above them both.
This is the place Tradition calls “God.” Not as an external entity. But as the Root of Life. The Point of Oneness from which both souls stem.
PARALLEL LINES
It is like two parallel lines that never meet on the plane. But they meet in Infinity.
On the daily human level, you might never feel a full heart-to-heart meeting. But on a deeper level—through the life created, through the child, through the shared destiny— A connection exists that needs no words.
GATEWAY COUPLES
There are couples whose connection is not to be a Home for one another. But to be a Gateway. A gate through which a soul passes, or a deep understanding of yourself.
In such cases, demanding that the connection also provide full emotional intimacy might be a demand that does not match its nature. It doesn’t mean you have to give up. It means you have to Recognize what it IS and what it IS NOT.
THE REDEMPTION OF ACCEPTANCE
When souls meet only in God: Any attempt to force a direct emotional meeting creates pain. But any agreement to lay down this need and lean on something greater creates Quiet.
This is a meeting through Trust. Through acceptance of a Limit. Through the knowledge that not every connection is meant to be symmetrical.
THE QUESTION FOR YOU
The deep question for you is not “Is the relationship enough?” But: “Can I live in peace with the type of meeting it allows?”
Can you lean on the “Meeting in God” without demanding it be something else? Or does your Soul need a direct, live, heart-to-heart meeting to flourish?
This is not a question of justice or guilt. It is a question of Internal Truth.
Sometimes, the realization that “We meet only in God” is itself the Redemption. It liberates you from the struggle to fix the other. And allows each of you to stand in your place. With humility. Without canceling the depth of the yearning. And without denying the boundary.