Why You Never Find the Answer to "Why Me?" (Body Questions vs. Soul Questions)
The body asks questions to get relief. The Soul asks questions to get Truth. Ruth Kedem explains why we must stop trying to explain our suffering and start using it.
THE LIMITATION OF THE QUESTION All the questions a person asks from within their life story:
“What did I go through?”
“What did they do to me?”
“Why did this happen to me?”
These are not mistakes. These are questions of Clarification (Birur). But they belong to the Psyche (Nefesh): the meeting point between the Light and the Vessel. As long as a person lives within the experience of the Body and Emotion, the questions must be asked from there.
But the Body, by its very nature, cannot contain an Answer. The Body is a vessel of Experience, not a vessel of Knowledge (Da’at). It remembers, reacts, gets hurt, and clings—but it does not Know.
Therefore, questions asked from the Body will never reach a solution. They will only deepen the story.
The Shift: Soul Questions The Correction begins the moment a person stops seeking an answer that will “comfort the pain,” and becomes willing to ask a question born not from the Wound, but from the Soul.
Soul Questions are not: “Why did they do this to me?” Soul Questions are: “What is being clarified through me? What Truth is asking to appear?”
This is a totally different movement. It is the transition from the Animal Soul (which experiences reality as survival) to the Divine Soul (which experiences reality as a process of revelation).
The Nature of Spiritual Answers When the question changes, the Light that can enter changes. A Spiritual Answer is not Information. It is Equivalence of Form (Hashva’at Tzura).
The Soul knows Truth not through explanation, but through Identification. Therefore, real answers do not descend directly to the Body. They are received in the Soul, and only then do they “clothe” themselves in life, behavior, relationships, and finally, the body itself.
The Secret of the Chariot (Merkavah) When a person learns to ask Soul Questions—not to escape pain, but to allow Light to lead—he becomes a Chariot.
Not a detached saint.
Not a nullified body.
But a Whole Human where the Soul leads and the Body joins.
This is the meaning of “Israel” (Yashar-El): A reality where life itself becomes a language of Divinity.
My Role as a Teacher My role is not to answer questions, but to return the question to its Source. Most daily questions are born from the Body—from pain, lack, fear, and the desire for relief. And the Body, as we are taught, has no ability to receive an answer. The Body does not know Truth; it knows Will. It wants relief, validation, control, and quiet. Therefore, an answer given to the Body will never satisfy it; it will only birth a new question.
You Don’t “Get” an Answer; You “Do” an Answer A True Answer is not data. It is a movement of Return (Teshuvah). A person does not “receive” an answer; a person “does” Teshuvah. The answer happens only when the Soul returns to lead the Body.
The Soul knows. But it does not scream. It waits for the person to agree to listen from a place deeper than immediate desire. Therefore, the work is not to calm the Body. But to teach it not to settle for explanations, but to bring down Consciousness.
We do not answer the Body. We awaken the Soul. And the connection between them is the only Answer that exists.