Your Soul Hates Being Clung To
Why trying to "stick" to another person causes illness, and why the only safe attachment is Vertical.
“Why are relationships so hard? Why does it feel suffocating when someone gets too needy, or painful when I need them too much?”
A soul does not like being stuck to, or having someone stick to it.
The Soul is a “Part of God Above.” It is attached (Devuka) to the Creator. Even when it is not yet attached to Him in conscious repentance (Teshuva) in this world— in its root, it is already One.
The Physics of the Soul Whoever reaches a level of real, real, real adhesion (Devekut) with the Creator cannot allow anyone to cling to them. Because they are already attached to the Source.
And this is why there is so much friction in relationships. Because of the Animalistic Will.
Most problems and illnesses stem from a single misunderstanding: People do not understand what “Adhesion to the Creator” is, so they try to adhere to each other.
It does not work like that.
Each and every one of you must cleave to the Creator. And out of that— when each one does this independently— we arrive at Equivalence of Form with the Creator. And then we have a Shared Understanding.
One. United. Anything else is not the Essence of the thing. It is the world spinning around itself in circles.
As my teacher used to say: “Finish with this already.”
The Soul Is Monogamous The soul does not want “Stickiness” to another person. Because any desire to “stick” or receive external human connection stems from a basic, uncorrected will— an external, dependent will that is not based on true adhesion to the Creator.
Whoever reaches the level of Adhesion, their connection to the Creator is so full and real that they have no need to focus on “clinging” to another person. They cannot bear a dependent connection. Because their entire inner will is already directed to the True Source—the Divine Light.
The Source of Friction This is the reason relationships in the world are full of friction and tension. Most people try to stick to each other to complete what they lack internally: The true adhesion to the Creator.
When souls do not understand the Principle of Adhesion, they look for external connection instead of internal connection. And this creates friction, disappointment, and illness.
The Healing True adhesion to the Creator releases a person from the need to be “glued” to others. And every human friction is a sign that the inner will is still looking for the Light of the Creator through others instead of understanding that the true and whole connection is Internal.
The connection to the Creator is full and independent. It cannot be “prevented” or dependent on others. It is internally free.
And no “External Stickiness” can fill its place. Because its entire true passion is to merge with the Divine Light alone.
“There is no one who can truly hold me but Him.”
How beautiful is that.
Reflect:
The Diagnosis: Are you trying to use your partner/friend/child as a “God Substitute”? Are you asking them to provide the security that only the Creator can provide?
The Friction: Think of a relationship that feels “sticky” or heavy right now. What would happen if you stopped holding onto them and grabbed onto Him instead?
The Visualization: Imagine you and your loved one are two climbers on separate ropes, climbing the same mountain. You are close, you see each other, but you do not hang on each other’s rope.
The conversation continues in the comments. Can you love without clinging?